Judge Not

"Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged."

Matt. 7:1-2 NLT

I think many of us can grasp the concept of not judging other individuals. We're careful to allow people certain grace when it comes to their choices or behavior. But what about extending that same courtesy to your spouse?

I can be honest and say that I'm not always so lenient in my judgments when it comes to my husband. Sometimes I don't cut him the slack that he deserves and that, I, myself may need.  Oftentimes, we hold our spouses to these ridiculous standards that we may struggle with upholding ourselves. What's that really about? Is it because their actions may actually mirror back to us the attitudes of our heart? Hmmmm...

The next time you find yourself in a critical role as it relates to your spouse, first, remember that they are someone with frailties and weaknesses just like you are. And, more importantly, that they deserve the same amount of grace, if not more, that you may extend to others.

To Marriage With Love,

Tangie

Marriage Tip: Open Your Mouth!

Communication is the oxygen of your marriage.  If you want or need something from your spouse, open your mouth and use your words.  The life of your marriage depends on it!

To Marriage With Love,
Tangie

Marriage Tip: Learn to Discern

There will be many instances in your relationship where you have something important that you need to share with your spouse.  And because of its perceived importance, you may blurt out the information without carefully assessing their mood, mental state or disposition.  If you want the information that you're sharing to take precedence and spur action, you've got to learn to discern the right timing to share that information.  Bombarding your spouse with details about the kitchen sink overflowing when he first walks into the door after a long day at work is probably not a good idea.  And asking your wife where the ketchup is when she's having some "she time" will probably not be received well.  My point is that if we want to increase the effectiveness of our communication with our spouse, we have to convey our messages when they will be best received.  I'm not giving you a license to withhold vital information.  I'm just admonishing you to use wisdom when sharing that information.  Our goal is to increase the value of our communication, thus increasing our intimacy. After all, marriage is a skilled sport and it definitely ain't for wimps!

To Marriage With Love,

Tangie