10 Keys to a Lasting Marriage

When Wives Pray Excerpt: Submission

Submitting to our husband is God's best for us. It is a protection system that is designed to cover us and allow us the freedom to flow in our God-Given gifts. But too often the principle of submission is misconstrued and used as a vice of control and manipulation. I believe a mindset shift needs to take place so that we fully understand the beauty and the power of submission. The beauty is that when we

completely give ourselves to our husband, allow him to take the lead and submit to his authority, it empowers him to fully walk in the Kingship God ordained and endorses and he will be confident in his ability to be all God has called him to be.  But when we micro-manage, nit-pick and boss our husband, it emasculates him, causing resentment and disrespect, which eventually leads to another set of issues down the line. Let me share something with you I learned long ago, “Submission is Power.” Let that sink deep in your spirit.  When you willingly and lovingly submit to your husband, your marriage will be empowered to succeed on every level.

Excerpt from, “When Wives Pray.” Copyright © 2016 by Tangie Henry. All Rights Reserved.

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The Mature Wife

I got married at the tender age of 23. With almost no counseling & even fewer examples, I embarked upon the life of being my husband's "good thing." However, very soon thereafter I learned that being a wife is harder than it looks. And being a mature wife? Well, let's just say that it has taken me many years, almost 20 to be exact, to mature into a wife worthy to be called "A Good Thing." (Prov. 18:22)

Over the next several weeks I'm going to do a blog series called, "The Mature Wife." I came up with this idea as I was thinking about the days leading up to my 20th year wedding anniversary. Although my marital fantasy dictated that my husband and I take a long, romantic trip to Fiji or Europe for our anniversary, our priorities and other goals suggested a more modest celebration. At any rate, I started thinking about how I had matured over the years. There was a time when I would have been really bratty and insisted on some type of pomp and circumstance "just because." Don't get me wrong, I am, by no means, downplaying the amazing accomplishment of being married for 20 years. But what I am saying is that, if both my husband and I agree to work toward certain goals that would possibly be deferred because of a certain purchase or activity, then we need to re-evaluate some things. And in my maturity, I have learned this.

The bible says that the older women are to teach the younger women to love their husbands (Titus 2:4). That scripture always intrigued me because one would think loving their husband would be a natural, organic process that did not need instruction. Right?  But I found out the contrary. And when I would seek wisdom from "older" women early in my marriage, they had very little to offer because they were struggling themselves. So it is my hope that you will be able to glean some nuggets of wisdom from the things I will be sharing in the coming weeks. Whether you're single, engaged, married or otherwise, I believe we can never amass enough tools in our "Marriage Box."

Stay tuned for my blog series, "The Mature Wife."

To Marriage With Love,

Tangie

#MarriageAintforWimps