Saturday, October 1, 2011

Get on the Wall

Proverbs 31:27 "She looks well to the ways of her household..." NIV

*This blog was inspired after hearing a beautiful Woman of God, Rhonda Irby, share about the importance of keeping the "intruders" out of our marriages.

There may be many times in your marriage where you feel as if you're in a war zone. It can seem that you and your honey are at odds over everything from the trash to the gas bill to the kids’ homework. Communication becomes a naughty word and you slip into attack mode. Well the reality is that your conflict may have very little to do with the "hot topic" for that day and more to do with the fact that you have probably allowed some "intruders" to come in and set up shop in your marriage.

Now an "intruder" may not necessarily be Jody from the office, but the "intruder" could be staring back at you in the mirror. Marriages don't self-maintain. You have to be committed to doing something every day in order to look well to the ways of your household. That may mean a back rub, a nice dinner or even just a listening and supportive ear. When you are looking well to the ways of your household, you are "standing guard." You are standing on the wall and being vigilant against anything that would seek to destroy your relationship--even if that person is you.

So I want to admonish you to be on the lookout for the "intruder." Be on the lookout for feelings of apathy toward your marriage. Be on the lookout for communication breakdowns. Be on the lookout for activities that snatch your time away from your spouse. It's time for us stand watch over our marriages--nurture and care for them as the precious jewels that they are. It's time for us to Get on the Wall and defend against the intruders because, guess what? Marriage Aint for Wimps!