This
week many will celebrate Valentine’s Day, a holiday that has been set aside to
show love and appreciation of another. I think that is all fine and good, but I
have several concerns. However, I am only going to address them to the married
folks. First of all, if we're waiting for this one day to express our
"love" for our spouse, then, "Houston, we have a problem."
Love, in its purest definition is based in selflessness and service. Many
people, married folks included, get caught up in the hype. They consider it
another day to "get" something.
Much like Christmas, they are focused on the gifts and not the intent.
So if you and your honey have been bickering, disconnected, lacking
communication and intimacy, what good is dinner and chocolate? This is my
challenge to you: As you celebrate love this week, take some time to examine
what that really means for the two of you. If there's been a disconnect
somewhere, focus on repairing the breach. If there is more that you desire out
of the relationship, discuss it. Make a concerted effort, also, to be attentive
to their needs, desires and concerns. It is in this way that you're building a
foundation of real love and you'll realize that it is about more than just a
day. After all, Marriage Ain't for Wimps!
To
Marriage with Love,
Tangie